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Well this said anything else so I just had the inclination to write my thoughts down here.

Depressed as usual. Thinkin' about being alone forever and how lonely it always gets. Just felt like typing about it. Sorry.

Alone happens to everyone and loneliness is depressing. The odd thing I have found - It is being lonely while with someone. Wanting someone to listen who just hears what they think you are saying. I'm sorry you're depressed and lonely, it is sometimes just sheer dumb luck that people connect at all - I hope your luck changes.

It is far better to be alone rather than having someone and feeling alone.

I want someone

[NOTE FROM MODERATOR: Post deleted for off-topic trolling.]

...what exactly are you talking about and who are you talking to? I believe you probably clicked on the wrong topic buddy.

He's trolling by posting off-topic idiocy to random topics. Best to ignore people like that.

Edward, I feel you. It is easy to think, x means I will be happy. The truth, saddly, is that isn't true. Happiness comes from ourselves. Putting that pressure on someone else or something else never works out the way one wants it to.

Just remember this and this quote:[1]

Friendship with oneself is all-important, because without it one cannot be friends with anyone else in the world.

[1] From http://www.quotationspage.com/quotes/Eleanor_Roosevelt

{edited for grammar}

If God with you, You never feel alone.. Even Single alone at home..

Okay Edward... I'm answering posts from another thread, over here, because they're off-topic over there. I won't answer any of this again.

edward18 wrote:Care to tell me how to get over it?

DO SOMETHING ELSE. Do ANYTHING else, think about ANYTHING but that. Move on. You have other interests, which must be rewarding in some way, because you continue to do them. Keep doing them. Stop doing that. It's really that simple -- not easy, but simple. And it does get easier to do, with practise.

edward18 wrote:I do that all the time when I act out how my characters are. Doesn't mean anything though. It's just a mask you put on. Just something to hide what you're really feeling.

Not entirely true. This has been tested. Researchers have asked people to remember times when they'd been happy, to try and reconstruct the entire scene mentally and/or verbally [talking to the researcher], or imagine things they looked forward to, to build a potential future moment in their head [again, while talking to the researcher] -- and you know what? After a while, a lot of them began to smile.

Another test involved asking the interviewee to smile, and keep smiling while talking to the researcher. After some time spent doing this, even though it seemed silly at first, their mood improved and the conversation turned to more fulfilling topics. Some even joked about this goofy smiling exercise having no real effect -- but did laugh about it. So it actually did affect their mood, despite what they were saying.

So, these things can work their way in from the outside, or outward from inside. That `mask' can grow roots, work its way in and affect how you're really feeling. Use it.

edward18 wrote:First off, I've never been able to get over a crush

Secondly, why would you want to?

Since you've asked this before, and since you do seem miserably unhappy... I can only conclude that you're in love with your own misery -- possibly more so than your purported crush, since you've seen a lot more of your own misery than her, lately. The role of Mr. Sad&Lonely must appeal to you in some way. Do you think the person you're so in love with would actually *want* you to be this miserable? Of course not. She'd have to be pretty vile to want that.

But on some level, *you* must want that, because you continue to pursue it. I'd tell you to be careful, that self-pity can be terribly addictive, but I think you're already well and truly hooked.

And that's the main reason you're on my `Ignore' list.



Goodbye,

Patrick.

DO SOMETHING ELSE. Do ANYTHING else, think about ANYTHING but that. Move on.

I can't. She pops into my head every single day. For the past however many years since 8th grade x_x

You have other interests, which must be rewarding in some way, because you continue to do them. Keep doing them. Stop doing that. It's really that simple -- not easy, but simple. And it does get easier to do, with practise.

Maybe it is to you.

Not entirely true. This has been tested. Researchers have asked people to remember times when they'd been happy, to try and reconstruct the entire scene mentally and/or verbally [talking to the researcher], or imagine things they looked forward to, to build a potential future moment in their head [again, while talking to the researcher] -- and you know what? After a while, a lot of them began to smile.

I smile all the time. Doesn't mean I'm always happy.

Another test involved asking the interviewee to smile, and keep smiling while talking to the researcher. After some time spent doing this, even though it seemed silly at first, their mood improved and the conversation turned to more fulfilling topics. Some even joked about this goofy smiling exercise having no real effect -- but did laugh about it. So it actually did affect their mood, despite what they were saying.

...doesn't really help with this problem. I'm always happy when I think about her simply because I'm thinking about her. Usually think about her when I'm depressed to make myself happy again =)

So, these things can work their way in from the outside, or outward from inside. That `mask' can grow roots, work its way in and affect how you're really feeling. Use it.

That's a mask though. I want to feel what I really feel.

Since you've asked this before, and since you do seem miserably unhappy... I can only conclude that you're in love with your own misery -- possibly more so than your purported crush, since you've seen a lot more of your own misery than her, lately.

I haven't seen her in over half a decade =)

The role of Mr. Sad&Lonely must appeal to you in some way.

Not at all. Just how I figure I'll probably end up being.

Do you think the person you're so in love with would actually *want* you to be this miserable? Of course not. She'd have to be pretty vile to want that.

God she was annoying...not evil though =)

But on some level, *you* must want that, because you continue to pursue it. I'd tell you to be careful, that self-pity can be terribly addictive, but I think you're already well and truly hooked.

What I want is to be with her, which is likely never gonna happen.

And that's the main reason you're on my `Ignore' list.

...that's a pretty...insulting reason honestly.

Goodbye,

Patrick.

Oh it's a play on your little thingy you do at the end of each post.

...that's pretty funny actually. Normally it's annoying.

I have to agree with g33x0R when he says doing things to take your mind off of your sadness can really help. It does. And fixating on it will not. I'm asking because I want to help, but have you tried talking to someone professional like a counselor or someone about this?
I'm serious, there is NO shame in doing it. I've had my own spells and considered it, myself.

edward18 wrote:
I haven't seen her in over half a decade =)
...
What I want is to be with her, which is likely never gonna happen.

Just wondering, but have you kept in contact with her?
What do you think of sending a message and asking how she's been? Whether or not she'd like to meet and catch up?
You'll never know if you don't try. I know people say things like that a lot, but it's pretty true.

Just wondering, but have you kept in contact with her?

Finally got back in touch with her last year via facebook =) She has a boyfriend and works at the Aquarium back in Cincinnati now.

What do you think of sending a message and asking how she's been? Whether or not she'd like to meet and catch up?
You'll never know if you don't try. I know people say things like that a lot, but it's pretty true.

Oh I'm sure she wouldn't want to =) she said she is happy with her boyfriend and such. Last thing she really said (rarely talks to me) was that a crocodile at the aquarium that she liked was leaving late in the year (2013) so I made a picture of it for her that she loved =) had it as her avatar on facebook for a while.

Well, that answers a few things =/
However, my first point still stands. You can still move on and be happy. Even if you have to talk to someone for help to do so.